One of my “other gigs” is The Generous Husband. I’d like to tell you I woke up one day and decided to be the best, most generous husband I could be. Thing is that would be a lie.
What happened is Lori, my loving wife, decided she wanted to be outrageously generous, and she decided to start at home. She didn’t say anything, she just started being more generous. Due to that pesky Y chromosome it took me a bit to catch on, but after a few weeks I got it. Then, due to that wonderful Y chromosome I got competitive and tried to “out generous her”.
Actually, I started to treat her better even before I realised what she was doing. It is not that I was horrible to her before, but I was better to her after she started being better to me. I was not consciously doing anything different, but her generously resulted in my being more generous to her.
I think most husbands would react the same way. Isn’t it human nature to be nicer to people who are nicer to us? Of course doing it just to get the same in return is likely to be frustrating, but if you decide to be generous because it seems to be the right thing to do, the chance of getting some of the same in return is a nice bonus.
~ Paul – I’m XY, and the Y is a mixed blessing.
By The Way, if you need gift ideas, our friends Brad & Kate over at One Flesh Marriage have put out their 2013 Wife’s Gift Guide to Knock Your Hubby’s Socks Off .