…and a Happy New Year?

January 1, 2014

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In the last week, I have seen several articles mentioning the importance of a wife’s happiness to the success of a marriage. It is commonly assumed that the wife’s happiness is more critical to the success of a marriage than the husband’s happiness. A few studies have hinted at the same thing. Given this, a wise man should be all about his wife’s happiness. In fact, the Bible tells us this:

If a man has recently married, he must not be sent to war or have any other duty laid on him. For one year he is to be free to stay at home and bring happiness to the wife he has married.” [Deut 24:5 NIV]

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There is good reason to think “happy” in that verse includes a sexual component, but it is much bigger than that. A husband is to take a whole year to learn how to make his wife happy!

Does that mean that your happiness depends on your husband? Yes and no. His actions and choices have a big impact on you, and how you feel. He can greatly contribute to your being happy, or he can make your life miserable. However, you have choices as well. You could be unhappy even if he were doing everything a wife could want, and you can be happy even if he is horrible.

Much of this is about marriage appropriate boundaries. If your husband is loving, generous, and caring, you can be very open to him. If you husband is careless, cold, or mean, you will need to be more closed to keep him from hurting you too deeply. (If this is an issue for you, I strongly suggest Boundaries in Marriage by Cloud and Townsend. The Kindle version is on sale for a couple more days.)

J, over at Hot, Holy & Humorous had great post about choosing to be happy – Give Him the Gift of Happiness.

A Bit of Blog Business:

  • We exceeded our year-end donation goal by almost 10%! A huge thanks to everyone.
  • Starting to get some good activity in the comments. Please join in; we want this to be a community.
  • Next month I will be putting out a survey asking what you want to know about your husband, and what you want him to know about you. I will be doing a similar survey for my Generous Husband list. This will have a strong influence on the direction this blog takes, so please take the time if you can.
  • Please pray for the 196 (and counting) men who have entered into my 2014 Marriage Upgrade Challenge. I am going to be asking a lot of these guys, but those who stick with it will see improvements in their marriages. Pray these men can keep going, even when they see no changes, and pray their wives will respond in a good and timely manner.

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Max Arthur January 2, 2014 at 8:25 am

happiness goes both ways in a marriage. Both the husband and wife should be responsible for a happy relationship
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