Having his wife initiate sex is a big deal for most men. In the What Your Husband Wants You to Know survey, five men used the word initiate. One said it as a one word a sentence. A number of other men shared the same request in other ways.
I have heard women complain “I don’t say no when he asks, but he still expects me to initiate sex”. The reason for this is that initiating sex is about more than having sex.
- We want to feel sexually desired by our wives. Saying yes is great, but desiring him so much you ask him is even better.
- Initiating sex says you enjoy sex. Your sexual enjoyment is important to him. It also results in him enjoying sex more.
- Even if his risk of hearing no is low, there is an emotional cost to asking. He would like you to take the burden on occasion.
In addition to all this, most men enjoy it when their wife plans something sexual. This is the sexual side of romance. The planning shows how much you care, and how well you know him. Springing a sexual surprise on him is a treat, and it yells, “I love you” to him.
Want to try initiating but you have no idea how? Check out How to Initiate Sex with Your Husband: Top 10 Tips to Make it Great! over on to Love Honor and Vacuum and Go Ahead, Initiate by my wife on The Generous Wife.