He Wants to Shower with You

May 30, 2014

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A while back, someone asked me if I would do a survey on couples showing together. The results are here. More than two-thirds of the men said they like to shower with their wife “anytime”. Less than half the wives said the same. One and a half times as many men were in the “anytime” category. What was discouraging was the many comments from men who said they very much want to do this, but their wife is unwilling most or all of the time. 

Fresh from the shower © Vladimir Pavlović | Dreamstime.com Your mileage may vary, but odds are your husband would like to shower with you, or do so more often. Why is this?

  • Sex Yes, he gets to see you naked, so sex is a factor here even if nothing happens.
  • Non-sexual nudity As one man said, it’s “a non-sexual way for me to be naked with my wife.”
  • Conversation Several men said talking was a great part of taking a shower together.
  • Hugging A couple of men mentioned how nice it is to hug in the shower.
  • Intimacy One man said, “It’s mostly about intimacy and closeness for us, and is only occasionally sexual in nature.”

Some of the ladies said the same things. As one woman put it, “It’s a great time to reconnect, have fun, talk, and not be interrupted cause the kids find it gross!”

Reasons Women Don’t Want To

  • Body image He thinks you look hot – really. Besides, it’s less revealing than some other options, so it’s a good way to get your feet wet – so to speak.
  • He will get aroused Which would be an indication he thinks you’re hot. If the two of you aren’t having much sex, this could be a problem. Otherwise, it shouldn’t be an issue.
  • He will expect sex right then If you are dead set against it, gently let him know you will shower with him, but sex will have to wait. You could also take care of him by hand if you like.
  • He will want to touch me Sounds to me like he thinks you’re hot. Talk to him about what touch is okay and what is uncomfortable. Start with him washing your back and move on from there. Two men mentioned liking washing their wife’s hair, which can be very relaxing.

Why not give it a try? If he does something you don’t like, tell him. See if you can work out a joint shower that works for both of you.

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Bonnie @ Love, Marriage and Sex May 31, 2014 at 5:49 pm

I WISH my husband would shower with me more. I love it but I think he feels like the shower is his private refuge or something and he literally never lets me in with him. I think showers are intimate and fun and sensual, but unfortunately, it’s something I don’t get to indulge in with him.
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Paul Byerly June 1, 2014 at 11:26 am

There were some women who said the same – although it was a minority.

I suspect part of this is an introvert thing.
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Jen June 2, 2014 at 3:52 am

The reason I don’t like to shower with my husband is because it never turns out to be 50/50. I have been married 3 times (divorced once, widowed once and currently married) and all three it was the same thing. They enjoy me lathering up a rag and soaping them down…then they get out so I can do myself. It’s like…uh..yea hello!!!When I say something he says something like “Oh..sorry baby i’m already out I’ll make sure next time.’ yea..next time rolls around and guess what?

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Paul Byerly June 2, 2014 at 11:17 am

So get him to do you first!
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KT June 3, 2014 at 10:43 am

My husband doesn’t shower with me either and on the rare occasions we have there’s no sex…just showering!

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