We were watching the Love and Respect Live Marriage Conference DVDs with our group last night, and Emerson did something brilliant. He suggested wives write a note to their husbands. It went like this:
Dear [whatever endearing term you use for him]
I was thinking about you the other day, that you would die for me. That is an overwhelming thought to me.
With all my respect, the one who still admires you.
After reading those words, Emerson said, “Many of the men here teared up hearing that.” I admit it brought a tear to my eye, and one of the other men in our group said it did the same to him. I doubt a woman can understand how deeply this moves a man. This is better for him than any love note you will ever receive. This is a card he will save forever. He might even show it, with great pride, to a few close friends.
Ladies, he would die for you. Even if he were mad at you, he would die for you. He wishes you understood that, and what it means about him. The fact we live in a world where he will likely never have an occasion to die for you does not change any of this for him. He feels for you a responsibility you will never feel for him. Letting him know you get it, and respect him for it, will touch him like nothing else.
Give it a try.
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