This, and “Is it okay for her to have a need you don’t have”, were a common theme in the Love and Respect DVD’s. It is an excellent question, and it can cut deep.
We have different needs for a variety of reasons including our personalities, experiences, and gender. We have different thoughts, feelings, desire, and needs. Some, especially those rooted in gender, are so different we find them difficult to grasp, much less understand.
So, is it okay with you for him to have a need you do not have? Is it okay for him to want some things more than you want them, while wanting others less than you do?
Intellectually we say, “Of course that’s okay”. The question then is do we act as if it is okay? Do we respect and honour his needs even when we do not share or understand them? When our desires conflict, do we sometimes sacrifice and go with what he wants?
And yes, Emerson did ask the ladies this question when he was discussing sex!
~ Paul – I’m XY, but I haven’t golfed in over 40 years!