Most men want peace in their homes. He has no problem fighting things out at work, but when he gets home, he wants to have peace. Because of this, many men put up with things they dislike, or do things they do not want to do. Not out of love, but out of a desperate need to have peace in their home.
When this happens in small ways, it is not a problem. When it happens in bigger ways, it can destroy his love for you. If he keeps giving up parts of his soul to get peace, one day he will find he has nothing left. He feels empty, and he has nothing with which to buy peace. This can lead to depression, anger, or just walking away without warning. More often, it leads to withdrawing from the marriage.
Please do not hear an accusation in this. Most women living with this have no idea it is happening. I tell you this so you can look for it in your marriage. Do not think, “Oh my husband is not that way” – I have seen it in men from whom you would never expect it.
~ Paul – I’m XY, and a peaceful home is an awesome thing.