My wonderful wife often thanks me for something I have done. Sometimes it is something for which a thank you would be expected, but often is for little things. She thanks me for doing things I should do, things that are “my job”.
It always feels good to be thanked, even when what was done was no big deal. I find her thanks makes want to do whatever I did again. I know this is human nature, but I think many men are more affected by this than many women are. We like to play tough and say, “it was nothing” or “don’t mention it” but like everyone else we want to be appreciated.
Look for excuses to thank your husband; you will both benefit.
~ Paul – I’m XY and I need affirmation too.