When you want your husband to do something for you, or to change how he does something, ask him to do it as a favour to you. Even if you think what you are asking for is something he should do, asking it as a favour is a better way to go.
This is true regardless of gender, but when a wife asked a favour of her husband, she has the added bonus of tapping into his desire to love and protect his bride. It works with the way God has made him. Additionally, you avoid any risk of being seen as nagging.
~ Paul – I’m XY and I like doing favours for my wonderful wife.