New Year, New Thoughts

December 31, 2014

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Over the last couple of years, I have come to realise just how much my thinking affects my life, for better or worse. I used to let my surroundings and circumstances significantly influence what I thought and felt. I was happy when things were “going well” and not so happy when things were “going badly”. This meant my mood and thoughts were dependent on things and people I could not control. Not a wise plan! At best, I was at the whim of others, at worst I was their victim.

Gradually I have come to realise what I think and feel is always my choice. I can see something bad as a horrible event, or a challenge to navigate. I can see my wife’s grumpiness as an excuse to act the same way, or I can see it as an opportunity to show her love and grace. What others choose to do and say should not decide what I think, feel, or do. If others control me, it is because I have chosen to let them do so.

I wish it hadn’t taken me so long to get this. Had I understood it thirty years ago, the problems Lori and I had in our early marriage would have hurt far less. Additionally, I would have acted far less badly, which would have made things easier for both of us. I suspect some of the problems would have gone away without any real work, and the rest would have been resolved faster and with less pain and turmoil. If nothing else, I would have had more peace, which would have been nice.

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Unlike most of what I post here this is not a male thing, it is a human thing. Do you allow others, including your husband, to decide how you feel? It’s a difficult habit to break, but it is well worth the effort!

Bottom Line: You and you alone decide what you think and feel. You have a great deal of control and choice, if you are willing to use it. If you stop allowing others to control your mood, you will find an amazing level of peace. 

~ Paul – I’m XY, and for the record, my wife has never been much of a grump.

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