At the first of the year, we did a survey asking men and women if their sex life was better in 2014. Overall, our respondents said yes. Half said it was better than 2013, and a third said it was the best year ever. Women were more likely than men to say it was the best ever.
As we looked at women’s answers compared to how long they’d been married, we found some interesting things. It was very rare for a woman married less than 15 years to say last year was the best ever. From 15 years of marriage on, women were more likely to say last year was the best ever. About half of those married 15-29 years said last year was the best, while 86% of those married more than 30 years said it was the best.
On the other side, 21% of those married less than three years, and 26% of those married 3-9 years said last year was the worst year ever for their sex life. Of all the women married more than 9 years, only one said last year was the worst ever.
That’s pretty impressive support for the idea sex gets better the longer women are married. I try not to put too much on our surveys given the problems with Internet surveys, but these findings match up well with a number of other better-done surveys. An Indiana University study on sexual satisfaction and relationship happiness found wives’ sexual satisfaction increased steadily the first fifteen years of marriage, continuing to improve at a slower rate after 15 years. Satisfaction never levelled out, still growing slightly for women married 50 years. A large study in the UK released just last week found older sexually active women were happier with their sex lives than younger women – and this was true all the way up to women in their 80’s, with only 5% of those women saying they were dissatisfied with their sex lives.
Bottom Line: For women the first decade of marriage is the worst, sexually. However, sex gets steadily better the longer a woman is married, and great sex can continue long after retirement.
~ Paul – I’m XY, and I’m enjoying our empty nest.