Valentine’s Day and Sex

February 13, 2015

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On Monday, I mentioned doing something to make Valentine’s Day good for your husband. One obvious option is having sex. 

Given Valentine’s Day is on Saturday this year, may I suggest you seduce him first thing in the morning? Initiate sex, or do something making it clear you are willing. Full sex with both of you climaxing would be his preference, but anything you’re willing to do for him would be well received. When you finish, give him a kiss, and say “Happy Valentine’s Day!”

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There are several of advantages to doing it this way:

1) There is no pressure on you the rest of the day.

2) He can relax, rather than wondering if sex will occur.

3) You make it clear you are having sex with him because you love him, not because he passed the Valentine’s test.

4) If you really want to blow his mind, you can go again at bedtime.

BTW, if you are a higher drive wife, I’m deeply sorry. You might show him what sex means to you by telling him to skip the flowers, candy, and dinner, and just have sex with you.

Related Reading: My oh-so-generous wife wrote about this issue in Sex on VDay.

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Lina February 13, 2015 at 4:23 am

But my husband and I always have sex on Saturday morning – it’s our only morning together, because of our work schedules.

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Me February 13, 2015 at 7:00 am

Thanks for not forgetting about the higher drive wives who already struggle with feeling ugly, worthless, and far inferior to the wives who are desired. That sounds sarcastic, but I’m serious. It is very thoughtful of you to acknowledge us.
Things have been getting better for us, and that’s good, but I stopped initiating about six months ago and cannot bring myself to do it. My husband recently told me he misses it a lot, but oh well. A few years of being rejected and feeling like the ugliest woman on earth makes one tend to not want to put themselves out there anymore.
Twice in one day? That would be amazing. I’m lucky if we have sex twice a week. So ladies, if your man actually wants you, be thankful! That is a blessing.
I’m going to try to feel confident this weekend. My husband says he loves it when I’m happy, so that will be my gift to him, whether he wants me sexually or not.

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Paul Byerly February 13, 2015 at 10:16 am

I understand not being willing to ask. Sure, it can mean more sex, but it certainly means hearing no more.
Hang in there!
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Eric February 16, 2015 at 2:52 pm

Be thankful for what you have got. As the high drive husband who is done initiating. I am lucky to get it once a month.

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Chris February 13, 2015 at 9:47 am

Valentine’s test? That startled me. I don’t know that I ever thought about it that way–but I suppose my husband did for a lot of years. Interestingly, it’s easier for him to pass that test when he’s sexually satisfied. Go figure. :)
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Paul Byerly February 13, 2015 at 10:12 am

A lot of men feel it’s a test, and some think it’s full of trick questions!
BTW, great post today.
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Chris February 13, 2015 at 11:23 am

Thanks. I thought it was interesting that we both mentioned the value of initiating morning sex so the guy can let go of the anxiety about whether it will happen.
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FarAboveRubies February 13, 2015 at 10:11 am

This is the second time today I have heard about morning and night sex on Valentine’s Day. I just wonder if he’d be up to it (sorry about the pun). We are doing the ten day challenge that starts tomorrow. I’m so excited. We’ve been practicing. :)

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Paul Byerly February 13, 2015 at 10:14 am

I don’t know many men who would feel bad about saying “I’d lake to, but you’ve worn me out!”
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Jerry Stumpf (@JerryStumpf) February 13, 2015 at 11:41 am

That “test” idea is a great way to put it. Many men and women for that matter, look at the sexual intimacy as a test of their relationship.

Another way to take to pressure off is to let him / her know that sex is on for the morning. Write a note on the mirror or place a not somewhere he is sure to find on Friday. That builds anticipation without the issue of “Am I getting any sex on Valentine’s Day?” which many spouses question.

No matter which one is the higher drive spouse, the pace is set by the lower drive spouse.
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Paul Byerly February 13, 2015 at 12:06 pm

Your last thought it true, but the lower drive spouse can CHOOSE to be generous about it! ;-)
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Lina February 13, 2015 at 11:51 am

Reading your blog and just now discovering the Forgiven Wife blog, I have to laugh and say: gee, you men sound pathetic, worrying and anxious about whether you are ‘getting any’! LOL! How have you all managed to run the world, discover and invent things, etc?

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Paul Byerly February 13, 2015 at 12:07 pm

Some would say the did all those things because they were sexually frustrated!
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Lina February 13, 2015 at 11:52 am

(Don’t take that the wrong way, I really think it’s funny!)

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