First, I hope this post is in no way about your husband!
On Sunday the 10th, I posted something about Mother’s Day over on The Generous Husband –Mothering’s NOT for Wimps! And, as is to be expected, I got someone complaining about it. It degenerated quickly and I’ve removed some of the follow up comments. The gist of it is the fellow is convinced I think women are morally superior to men, smarter, harder working, and generally better in every way. Clearly, he is reading something other than my actual words to come to these conclusions!
What others think about us often has more to do with them than it does with us. Illogical rants can tell us a great deal about who others are and how they see themselves. The trick is choosing to not allow what they say change how we see ourselves.
There is a small but vocal group of men on the Internet often called the Manosphere. These guys are upset at and about women. If you dig deep enough you find the problem, according to them, is women don’t know their place. They think the world was a great place until feminism messed up everything. Apparently, feminists are out to destroy our way of life, and if we don’t wake up soon it will be too late. Among other things, these men have a poor grasp of the Bible and no understanding of the reality of history.
For men, these guys are an annoyance. For women they can be far more of a problem. I don’t have any brilliant advice for dealing with them, but I can offer some thoughts on why they are as they are. As I suggested above, it’s not about women, it’s about the men and how they feel about themselves. Men who feel good about their masculinity are not afraid of women, or of women taking over. Men who fall into this trap are unsure about themselves. They also feel powerless to change their lives. Blaming someone else makes them feel better about themselves. They think their situation is not due to their actions (and inactions), it’s because of a societal problem caused by radical feminists. In snort, their anti-woman feelings and rhetoric come from the same roots as racism.
Of course, some parts of “the feminist movement” have similar motivations and problems, which just makes the whole thing all the crazier. I’ll keep doing what I can to talk down the men who are wrong, and I trust you ladies will try to do the same if you come across women who are over the top.
By the way – this post will no doubt put The XY Code on the manosphere radar, but I have the comments moderated so we should see few if any comments here from them.
~ Paul – I’m XY, and have no patience with men who blame women for all the wrongs of the world.