The results of our Watch Your Spouse Masturbate? survey were as expected – 90% of men would like to, and only 4% flat said no to it. The comments are revealing:
- It is a turn on and makes me feel closer to her when she does.
- It’s hot, hot, hot….
- I would like to actually see that she is a sexual being!
- As a man I am naturally visually stimulated by this… such a beautiful and passionate act in the confines of marriage where husband and wife can experience it together is a bonding time.
- When I watch my wife masturbate I learn more about her. It’s just such a turn on.
- She says she does not want to “put on a show” for me. I crave her as the “show”.
- What could be more intimate than seeing your spouse pleasure themselves for you.
- Holy cow. Hottest thing ever!!!
I know most women don’t get it on this issue. Some women would like to watch their husband masturbate out of curiosity, and some find it a bit arousing, but few think of it as the huge turn on most men do.
Men Are Visual
We’ve all heard men are visual when it comes to sex. In recent years, there have been many people trying to say women are just as visual. Certainly, women are visual about sex, but not in the same way, and not to the same degree. Men react to female nudity far, far more strongly than women react to male nudity. When the woman is intentionally nude for him, the impact is even stronger. When she’s doing something sexual for his viewing, it’s even more powerful.
If you understand this, you can really thrill your husband. Flashing him a peek of a sexual part of your body does more for him than you can imagine. Aside from arousing him, it makes him feel loved, understood, and appreciated. You’re giving to him in a very special way, and he will appreciate it greatly. You can go even further by touching yourself a bit. Something as simple as making one of your nipples stiff will have a huge effect on him.
As I write this, I can imagine some fellow commenting he looks at porn because his wife refuses to show her body or do anything sexy while he watches. I don’t accept this as justification for a man to look at porn, but I will confirm it probably increases his temptation. He has a strong desire to see female nudity and sexuality, and if his wife isn’t feeding that he’s at greater risk of giving in to the temptation of porn. I’m not telling you to show him something to keep him out of porn, but there’s a grain of reality in such a comment.
This post would be incomplete without a word on body image. Your husband isn’t nearly as hung up about your body as you are. He knows you’re not perfect, and he knows you don’t look like the surgically and Photoshoped modified women of porn. Honestly, he doesn’t care. You have things porn women don’t – like his love and desire. Additionally, you love him. If you want him and are available sexually, no other woman can even come close in his mind.
If you want to thrill your husband while validating his masculinity, show him your sexuality.
~ Paul – My wife is XX, and she knows how to show it!
ADDENDUM: I’m writing this addition from Pendleton Oregon, where we are spending the night on our first away trip in the fifth wheel. A huge thanks to those of you who have given to help this become a reality. We are now at 62% of our total goal. If you want to help, we are asking for small donations – the cost of a cup of coffee. Send cash to the address below, or see here for giving on-line.
Paul & Lori Byerly
PO Box 2166
Deer Park, WA, 99006-2166