One of my mom’s stories about me when I was young:
You dad would be serving up dessert for you and I’d say, “Don’t give him too much” and you would say, “I want too much!”
To me “too much” was a quantity. It was the quantity I wanted, and it was a quantity my mother denied me.
Plenty of men are still doing this, only the “too much” they want has to do with sex, and the woman not giving them the quantity they want is their wife.
As I’ve mentioned a few (dozen) times on this blog, men and women are different. More of our differences than the modern world will admit come down to how we’re constructed. Those of us who follow Jesus understand our construction shows us what God intended.
One such difference is sex drive. Prior to 40, the average man has a much greater drive than the average woman does. He wants sex more often, and he wants more variety. Judged on a female scale, he wants too much. Judged on God’s scale it looks different.
I’m not telling you to just do whatever he wants whenever he wants. I think God gave you a different drive for a reason, and ignoring your sexuality to give him anything he wants is not the answer. I’m asking you to think about it from his perspective, and consider what God might have intended in giving him “too much” sex drive. How can the two of you find what God wanted? How do you blend what each of you was given to get what God intended?
~ Paul – I’m XY, and let’s just say my wife isn’t like my mom!