In last Monday’s post I mentioned a husband being grumpy. I was surprised no one jumped on it. After I wrote the post, I came across What Is The Issue With a Grumpy Husband? – a podcast from Love and Respect. So today my Generous Husband post suggests being grumpy might be wrong (aka sin).
If you live with a grumpy man, I strongly suggest the podcast above, and those to follow in the series. As Emerson suggests, most grumpiness comes from choosing not to discuss what’s bothering you. I also agree with Emerson this tends to be primarily a male issue. Women don’t usually hold things in. Instead they complain, which is usually called something rude. I’ll go with nagging.
Those who grump and nag both tend to blame their spouse. If s/he would just ______ or if s/he would stop ______, I’d stop being grumpy/nagging. While there’s usually some truth to this, it’s not the real issue. We get to choose how we deal with life, including when life it not what we want it to be. Some ways of dealing with life bring results, but neither grumpiness nor nagging is known for solving things or precipitating change. Choosing an annoying strategy that can’t bring change is a bad plan.
If either you or your husband is doing these things, it needs to stop. It’s hurting both of you and your marriage. If you need to make changes, do so. If he’s a grump, learn how to make grumping less appealing.
~ Paul – I’m XY and I WILL NOT BE a grumpy old man. Annoying yes, crazy maybe, but not grumpy!