My wonderful wife mutters, but she does it loudly enough and coherently enough I think she might be talking to me. So, I am forever interrupting her train of thought to ask if she’s talking to me.
I don’t mutter as much, and when I do it is too quiet and incoherent to be mistaken for talking to anyone. However, because my wife mutters in an understandable way she sometimes assumes I am doing the same when I am actually trying to communicate something to her. If I then assume she has heard me, we can have a real mess.
We generally expect our spouse to think, act, and communicate as we do. It is very rare for this to actually to be the case.
Some of our communication differences are gender based, but there are plenty of other reasons for varied forms of communication- and not communication. Learning these differences in your marriage isn’t nearly as easy as it should be. Why not take some time to think about it, and then discuss it with your hubby. It will probably take a number of such discussions for you to both “get it”, but once you do things will be better.
~ Paul – I’m XY, but I talk more like a woman.
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