One of the biggest problems for most marriages is busyness. This hurts couples in all kinds of ways, with a lack of time together being the root issue. How can you build a strong marriage if you don’t have time together? How can you know each other if you don’t have time to talk? How can you grow together if you have no idea what the other is doing and what they want to do?
Some would say women are more open to this message than men, but I see plenty of wives who are so busy they can’t make time with their husband no matter how willing he might be. If you want a good marriage now, if you want a marriage at all in the future, you must spend time together.
I’m not talking about being in the same room. I’m not talking about watching TV together or playing video games together. I’m not talking about date nights, and I’m not talking about sex. I’m talking about being together and doing things that allow you to talk as you do them. I’m not talking about a few minutes here and there, I’m talking about hours of time.
Specifically, can you and your husband find two hours together two days a week. (A total of four hours). Not 48 minutes five days a week, not eight hours every other Saturday, two separate two-hour blocks of time. What you do during the time is up to you, as long as it allows for good conversation. Don’t do it in place of time you already spend together – which is why sex and date night are excluded. This is in addition to whatever time you currently share.
As suggested by the title of this post, most couples will find the only way to do this is to watch less television. Record shows for later or just give up on a couple.
BTW, I suggested much the same to the men on The Generous Husband on Saturday.
~ Paul – I’m XY, and being with my wife is better than television!