The other day I caught myself telling Lori about something I’d done because I wanted her thanks. I became aware of this because I didn’t get the thanks I was looking for. Instead, I got minor irritation for interrupting the thought based thing she was doing.
As I’ve said before I’m the talkative one in our marriage. That makes me more like most of you, and lovely Lori more like your husbands. So I feel your frustration while she sympathises with your man.
As for fishing for thanks, I think men and women both do it. We do it because we are feeling down or neglected. Our spouse may or may not have anything to do with the feelings leading us to seek thanks.
- If you catch yourself seeking thanks, ask yourself why. There’s nothing wrong with wanting our spouse to appreciate us, but understand why and when we crave appreciate is good for us and our marriages.
- If you catch your hubby seeking thanks, give it to him.
~ Paul – I’m XY, with a bit of XX brain mixed in.