The other night we were talking with a couple folks about doing the full-time RV thing. One fellow said what we’re doing was his father’s dream, but his mother would have nothing to do with it. The other couple recounted friends who tried but never made it work. The man bought a very nice, very expensive Class A RV (the bus style) but his wife just didn’t like it.
I think the issue is a woman’s desire to have a “nest”. To put down roots, to have a place to call home. Certainly this varies from person to person both male and female, but I’ve long seen women expressing a greater desire for this. Not just a desire, I’d call it a need.
For a variety of reasons, including some bad stuff in her past, I think my wonderful RVing wife is less tied to a nest than most women. Less tied, but not without the need. I see the stresses this lifestyle causes her. I do my best to help make it go well. I know she’s doing this in part because she wants me to live my dream (now that’s hot!) and also because she desires to touch as many women as possible with the idea of being a generous wife.
Do you feel a need for a nest? Is your desire for this stronger than your husband’s? How does this affect your relationship? I suspect “nest needs” are a bigger marriage issue than most of us realise because it runs under the radar. Many “nest differences” show up as something else or get excused or explained as something else.
Give it some thought and prayer then kick it around with your hubby. If you both understand the gender difference here it might help you deal with some future issues.
~ Paul – I’m XY, and I love my nest desiring wife