This is my take on something many have suggested. It’s a non-threatening and informative way to communicate about sex with your hubby.
Put a bowl somewhere – night table, dresser, bathroom, whatever. Next to it put six coins – 3 pennies and 3 dimes. You each show your sexual interest by putting coins in the bowl – him the pennies, you the dimes.
0 coins = I’m not into sex right now.
1 coins = I’m not horny, but I’m willing.
2 coins = I want sex.
3 coins = I’m in a bad way.
You each consider the coins every time you see the bowl and change the number of your coins if you feel different. Anytime there are four or more coins, or three for either of you, sex needs to be a high priority. After you have sex, dump all the coins and start over.
If you do this, watch how the number of his coins changes. How long does it take for the number to increase? Does he ever reduce the number without having sex? How soon after sex does he put a coin in the bowl? Also think about your coins, and what they say about you.
~ Paul – I’m XY, and I’m watching for those dimes!