Men complain about women being ruled by their hormones. In reality all of us, XX and XY, are significantly controlled by our many hormones. Inject someone with a certain hormone or hormones and you can cause them to feel loving, aggressive, happy, sad, depressed, and on and on. We should learn to go beyond how our hormones push us, but we’re all pushed and we can only do so much about it.
One important hormone is oxytocin, which has been called the love hormone by some. Once thought to be important only for giving birth and nursing, we now know oxytocin causes bonding in everyone. It’s what causes mothers and fathers to fall in love with their new baby, even as it robs them of sleep, disrupts their routine, and destroys their sex life. It’s what makes us feel loving towards animals and is why some folks love their “fur-babies” in ways that cause others to shake their heads. It’s also very important in marriages. It’s the glue that helps hold us together.
You want your husband deep in the grip of oxytocin! But how do you get him more of this magic hormone? Fortunately, you don’t have to sneak it in his food or burn special candles.
Touch releases oxytocin in both the toucher and the touchie. Any touch works, from snuggling to hand holding to making out. The trick is to find touch he wants to receive. Massage is a great choice here. Learn where he carries tension and regularly help him with that.
Sharing a meal causes a release of oxytocin. From a seven-course gourmet feast to splitting a candy bar, eating together is a bonding experience. Find ways to make meals the main event, not something done in front of the TV.
Wow, Look At That!
Looking at something beautiful together is another way to get some oxytocin bonding. You can double up here by walking hand in hand in the woods or sipping some beverage while watching a sunset or sunrise.
Turn Up the Beat
Music is another choice, especially if you sing along together. Find music you both like and enjoy!
~ Paul – I’m XY, and my wise wife has me hooked on oxytocin.
Resource: 7 Things You (Probably) Didn’t Know About Oxytocin And The Science Of Love | Forbes