When we were having dinner with two other marriage ministry couples recently, I did a brilliant job of saying something I’ve never before been able to put into words well.
If Lori was in an accident and ended up with permanent scars or burns on her face, I would not hate the look of her face. I would see her “damaged” face as beautiful because it is the face of the woman I love. What I care about is the woman inside, and I like how her outside looks because I love her.
When I said this, the other men agreed with me adamantly.
In the same way, I love my wife’s breasts because they are her breasts. I love her butt and her most wonderful private parts BECAUSE THEY ARE HERS. I don’t wish anything were bigger or smaller or perkier, I like her as she is. And, I like her as she is as she ages. Those wrinkles she dislikes I see as part of her story. Those lines are an important part of who she is; how could I not like them? I expressed this thought a few days ago when we had lunch with a couple our age, and the other husband agreed with me.
I realise some men are jerks who want a picture perfect woman rather than a real woman. I think such men are a minority – especially among Christian men and men over the age of 21. Media has made such men the norm, and they are not.
Your husband is almost certainly as I am. He loves your face because it’s your face. He loves the rest of you because it’s you.
~ Paul – I’m XY, and my wife is HOT!
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