Yesterday I turned 55 years young.
I realise being this age makes me a better husband than I was when I was 24 (my age when we got married). This is not just because I’ve grown up some and wised up a bit.
At 24, my prefrontal cortex was not yet fully developed and I was, at least, a decade away from emotional maturity. Add to that the near toxic levels of testosterone in my system, and it’s a wonder my dear Lori was able to put up with me long enough for me to grow up. I was more given to aggression, to aggressive driving, to impatience, and to thinking 18 hours without sex was an emergency of major proportions. I was less able to read my wife’s emotions, and less able to empathise when I did find a clue.
Of course I had a responsibility to fight my hormonal and mental limitations when I was younger, but the limitations were real and there is only so much one can do. The same is true for your dear hubby. If you hang in with him his age will make things better.
~ Paul – I’m XY, and I’m getting older AND BETTER!
Men Mature After Women — 11 Years After, To Be Exact — A British Study Reveals | Medical Daily
Testosterone may reduce empathy by reducing brain connectivity | PsyPost