There’ve been a lot of stories recently about a study that says a woman’s ability to have an orgasm from intercourse comes down to her sexual anatomy. I know this issue has been a source of frustration in some marriages, so I’m doing a post about it.
The idea that a woman’s ability to orgasm during intercourse is based how close her clitoris is to her vagina has been around almost 100 years. The new study did statistical work on data from two previous studies and found strong support for the hypothesis. The distance measured was from the glans of the clitoris to the urethra. The “magic number” is 1″ (2.5 cm). Women whose clitoris is this close or closer to their urethra are likely to orgasm from intercourse alone. Closer means more likely, further means less likely. At 3 cm, a bit less than 1¼”, the chance of orgasm from intercourse without added stimulation is essentially zero.
The best guess for why women vary this way is exposure to androgens during gestation. The more testosterone a baby girl gets while in the womb, the further her clitoris will be from her urethra. This means a woman’s ability to orgasm from intercourse alone is set at birth.
Let me repeat: your ability or inability to orgasm during intercourse is because you were born that way. It’s not about your maturity, or how your husband is hung. It’s not about his skill or your emotions. It’s not about how you did or didn’t masturbate as a teen or how many men you might have been with before you got married. Either you were born to orgasm from intercourse alone or you were not. Period. End of subject.
I hope this news bring significant relief to many of you. If you don’t orgasm from just intercourse you’re not broken and you’re not less of a woman. If intercourse alone has never gotten you there, especially if you’ve tried being on top, odds are it never will. But you can make it happen if you and hubby are willing to work at it. A vibrator between your bodies in face-to-face sex will give you what you need to climax. You could also try the coital alignment technique, a variation of missionary position that gives greater clitoral stimulation Or, you can enjoy orgasm before or after intercourse – or both before AND after!
~ Paul – I’m XY, and yes I will post about this on The Generous Husband
Female Sexual Arousal: Genital Anatomy and Orgasm in Intercourse | NCBI