The more I look at woman’s lives, the more aware I become of the burden of perfection most women carry. Of course, men struggle with this too, but it seems women have it far, far worse. Women are more self-critical about things, including exceptionally minor stuff and things they have no power to change.
Are men putting this on women? For the most part, I would say no. I see a lot of women who are far harder on themselves than their husband has ever been. I also talk to a lot of men who wish their wife was not so hard on herself.
If this behaviour is not, for the most part, put on women by men, then where do they get it? They get it from their mothers, sisters, and the other women in their lives. They learn it growing up, and they learn it so well they don’t even think about it; it’s just how life is.
Can a woman escape this? God help the woman who tries! She will be attacked by other women and beaten back into submission. This is how women are to be, and anyone who refuses to play must be punished until she gets back in line. Uptight, self-hating, self-abusing women don’t want to be confronted by those who are free of these things. If they can’t shame “free women” back into self-imposed emotional slavery they will spread lies and innuendo to discredit her.
If you think I’m stating this too strongly, tell me. But it’s what I see from the outside looking in, and plenty of other men would say the same.
So how do you change it? Thoughts? I hate what this does to the women around me, including my wife, my daughter, and my daughter-in-law. I hate what it’s going to do to my granddaughter as she grows up. I want to see it change for all these ladies and all the rest of you.
~ Paul – I’m XY, and I think Satan hates women more than he hates men.
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