Ever felt this way? You’re having a nice non-sexual snuggle and then he ruins it by having an erection.
Why can’t he just enjoy being close without making it all about sex? Is that all he ever thinks about?
Here’s the thing, he loves you. He enjoys you, and he wants you. Being close to you is arousing because of his feelings for you and how God made him.
- Does his erection mean he’s horny? Maybe. But maybe not. The amount of arousal needed for an erection can be low, and it might not be enough to get him to the point of wanting sex. This is especially true if he’s older, low drive, tired, or having all the sex he wants.
- Does his snuggle induced erection mean you owe him sex? No. But offering would be a generous thing to do.
My suggestion is to ignore it on some occasions, make an offer on some, and just grab it and do something nice with it on rare occasions. And always see it as an indication he likes you!
~ Paul – I’m XY, and the little guy sometimes has a mind of its own.