Do you ever feel your husband is trying to manipulate you?
One reason people manipulate is nothing else has worked. All the other ways of dealing with something that bothers him have failed so he resorts to manipulation. I’m not saying this makes manipulation right, but if it’s why he manipulates then you can stop it by hearing him and being willing to work on things without him manipulating.
Manipulation can also be learned behaviour. Perhaps he learned it by watching one of his parents, or he started doing it because he felt a parent or former love interest left him no choice. If you think he does it out of habit, try to identify and discuss the issue when he goes into manipulation mode. Give him a more effective way of expressing his needs and getting them met and the manipulation will stop.
~ Paul – I’m XY, and I really dislike being manipulated!