I ran across this image a month ago while looking for an image for another post. I saved it because it’s a great image to make a point about part of male sexuality.
The vast majority of men see this image as something they would really like to have happen to them. Some of the more safety minded men see this as happening when the car is parked, but many would be thrilled to see it while driving.
I suspect far fewer women see this image and think “I’d like to do that.” Especially in a moving car!
Men are generally risk-takers looking for adventure. Because that’s who we are, it permeates all of our being, including our sexuality. That’s why men are so much more into sex play in semi-public places. It’s why he’s more into the idea of sex on the dining room table than you are. It’s why he wants to try weird positions and it’s part of why he’s so big on oral sex (both receiving and giving). When men talk about “variety” they are in part talking about adding some adventure to sex.
So, am I suggesting you need to loosen up and try all the weird things hubby wants to do sexually? Yes and no. Given free reign, a lot of men will let the desire for sexual adventure take them places no couple should go. Adventurous sex is great, but it’s not worth getting arrested for public nudity or ending up in the emergency room trying to think of a PG explanation for one’s injury.
You can let him have sexual adventure while keeping things in the realm of sanity and safety. Engaging in what’s shown in the image in your garage might not be his first choice, but it will still thrill him. Start small and see where it takes you. Look for ways to give him what he wants without making you or the neighbours uncomfortable. He’ll thank you for it.
~ Paul – I’m XY, I know what guys think!