Doing this blog has been eye opening for me in many ways. One of those has come from trying to find images. I use two photo sites, one free and one paid. A large number of photographers contribute the images on both.
Often when I am looking for an image, I see plenty of good images of men doing or showing what I want. Images of women doing/showing the same tends to show women who are angry, ditzy, or sluty mostly naked. Even though the number of images of women is usually greater than of men, finding a decent image is often a challenge.
I doubt this comes as news to any of the women reading this. You know an angry man gets results, while an angry woman is dismissed as hormonal. A man standing up for himself is applauded, while a woman doing the same is called a female dog – or worse. You know showing any hint of emotion invalidates everything you have said or done, or say and do for the foreseeable future.
I am so very sorry.
I know men get a raw deal from some women. I know we are shown as buffoons and idiots on TV. We are treated badly, but not nearly as much as women do.
I cannot say all this is a new revelation for me, but doing this blog has made me more aware of it, and just how pervasive it is. Because I swim in the culture, I was not as aware as I should have been of the extent of the problem. Your husband is no doubt the same way. I do not know how you can open his eyes without being accused of PMS. I suspect this is one of those places where the victim can do little to bring about change.
Please know I am committed to opening the eyes of other men.
~ Paul – I’m XY and I can learn new tricks!