Decoding the Male Mind
Why Your Husband Wants to Shower With You
A while back, someone asked me if I would do a survey on couples showing together. So we did. More than two-thirds of the men said they like to shower with their wife “anytime”. Less than half the wives said the same. What I found discouraging was the many comments from men who said they very much want to do this, but their wife is unwilling most or all of the time.
Your mileage may vary, but odds are your husband would like to shower with you, or do so more often. Why is this?
- Sex Yes, he gets to see you naked, so sex is a factor here even if nothing happens.
- Non-sexual nudity As one man said, it’s “a non-sexual way for me to be naked with my wife.”
- Conversation Several men said talking was a great part of taking a shower together.
- Hugging A couple of men mentioned how nice it is to hug in the shower.
- Intimacy One man said, “It’s mostly about intimacy and closeness for us, and is only occasionally sexual in nature.”
Some of the ladies said the same things. As one woman put it, “It’s a great time to reconnect, have fun, talk, and not be interrupted ’cause the kids find it gross!”
Reasons Women Gave For Not Doing It
- Body image He thinks you look hot – really. Besides, it’s less revealing than some other options, so it’s a good way to get your feet wet – so to speak.
- He will get aroused Which would be an indication he thinks you’re hot. If the two of you aren’t having much sex, this could be a problem. Otherwise, it shouldn’t be an issue.
- He will expect sex right then If you’re dead set against it, gently let him know you will shower with him, but sex will have to wait. You could also take care of him by hand if you like.
- He will want to touch me Sounds to me like he thinks you’re hot. Talk to him about what touch is okay and what is uncomfortable. Start with him washing your back and move on from there. Two men mentioned liking washing their wife’s hair, which can be very relaxing.
Why not give it a try? If he does something you don’t like, tell him. See if you can work out a joint shower that works for both of you.
~ Paul – I’m XY, and an RV shower is too small for two. ☹️
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I WISH my husband would shower with me more. I love it but I think he feels like the shower is his private refuge or something and he literally never lets me in with him. I think showers are intimate and fun and sensual, but unfortunately, it’s something I don’t get to indulge in with him.
There were some women who said the same – although it was a minority.
I suspect part of this is an introvert thing.
It WAS a beautiful, natural intimate romantic enjoyable time with my Frmr wife…VERY relaxing, arousing, sexy & there were many times where sex was held off and I left the shower invitation open ended… I miss that gentle touch of a woman…so all men, ladies, I say you should do it b4 they leave you…in any way.
The reason I don’t like to shower with my husband is because it never turns out to be 50/50. I have been married 3 times (divorced once, widowed once and currently married) and all three it was the same thing. They enjoy me lathering up a rag and soaping them down…then they get out so I can do myself. It’s like…uh..yea hello!!!When I say something he says something like “Oh..sorry baby i’m already out I’ll make sure next time.’ yea..next time rolls around and guess what?
So get him to do you first!
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My husband doesn’t shower with me either and on the rare occasions we have there’s no sex…just showering!
“I love showering with wifey. She’s got an awesome body and love to look at her and love to soap up and run my hands over her naked skin. Only drawback is lubrication during penetration. Any good suggestions from readers for something that works well and doesn’t wash off? Thanks!”
Astroglide premium silicone.
Make sure you have adequate tub mats or stickers etc for traction/slip/fall/ safety! Confirm condom compatibility too. No shower oopsies!