My Mostly Silent Partner
I need to take a moment to thank my wonderful wife, Lori, for all her help on this blog. You don’t see much from her other than the occasional comment, but her cute little fingerprints are all over the XY code.
I’ve written to men for more than twelve years now, and I know how to talk to men. Women are not men (kind of the point of this blog) and you see, hear, think, and process differently than men. I don’t need to be blunt here, you will get subtle. Over the top is more likely to put you off than get your attention. These things are true for what I write and the images I use.
When I started this, I gave Lori veto power over anything, from topics, to word choice to pictures. I needed a woman’s eye checking what I do here. In addition to turning out a far better blog, I am learning some interesting things about women. Lori’s input is teaching me how women tend to react to certain words and images.
In a more general sense, a man’s wife is always a part of what he does. Even when she is not there and has no idea what he’s doing, her influence has shaped his thoughts and actions. In my experience, a wife’s shaping is positive far more often than it is negative. So, thanks to my wife for helping me be better, and thanks to all the wives who have made men as a whole a bit more civilised.
~ Paul – I’m XY, and I made a smart aleck remark just before the picture above was snapped.
Worth Reading: The other day I ran across I Wasn’t Treating My Husband Fairly, And It Wasn’t Fair. Does a good job of addresses something I hear men complain about.