Take a look at the image for this post – a sexy garter on a Bible. Does that feel a bit sacrilegious to you?
Unfortuanlty many Christians have the feeling sex, even in marriage, is less than holy. We’ve talked to people who can’t imagine having sex on Sunday morning then going to church! Others find the idea of praying before or after sex unsettling. Very few would feel okay about asking for prayer about sexual issues.
We have a long history of making sex unholy. Peter Lombard, a 12th-century theologian, said The Holy Spirit leaves the room when a married couple has sex, even if they do it without passion. Others have been even less charitable. Opinions ranged from sex being a necessary evil to okay as long as it was done rarely and not enjoyed too much.
Today the messages aren’t nearly as negative as in the past, but there’s still doubt in the minds of many. Sex is suspect, potentially dangerous, and to be limited. We must exercise caution, not the wild abandon the Bible actually tells couples to have in their marriage bed.
What about you? Do you think sex with your husband is a holy act, or something else? Do you limit yourself because you fear your desire, or his, is unholy? Have you ever limited your enjoyment/pleasure because you worried you might be going too far?
Try reading the Song of Songs in a modern translation and see what God says about sex in marriage. (And yes, the metaphors in SofS mean what you think they do!)
~ Paul – I’m XY and holy sex rocks!