The Time Puzzle
If you’re like most women you have more to do in a day than you have day. Even when you let something go you don’t manage to catch up.
This is a major problem in our modern world, and it seems to me wives have it even worse than husbands. This is especially true if the couple has babies or younger children. The busyness and resulting stress are bad for your mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual health. It’s also bad for your husband, your kids, and your marriage.
I suspect none of this is news to you. The issue is how do you change it?
Put Your Foot Down
Even if your husband is aware and cares, he’s not likely to be willing to do much. Honestly, there may not be much he can do. He might be part of the problem, he might just be happy with the status quo, but change is only going to happen if you make it happen. Consider it a matter of life and health, both for you and your marriage, and act accordingly. Tell hubby this is why you will be making changes, then do what you must.
Start With You Time
If you build your schedule from “what’s most important” down the odds are you’ll run out of time before you get to the things you need to do for your own health and sanity. Putting yourself first is not selfish, it’s caring for yourself so you can do all the other things God has called you to do. I know women get some garbage messages about what they must do, but the messages are just that – garbage! Please reject these lies and start caring for yourself.
What “you time” looks like will vary from woman to woman. It needs to include rest and recreation. I think it should also include some time with God and others who follow Him.
Next, Time With Hubby
When we get too busy we tend to steal time from those closest to us, and particularly from our spouse. We expect them to be understanding, or we’ve learned they’ll put up with it, or we’re able to ignore their (valid) complaints. Regardless of why we do it, it’s wrong. I might go so far as to say it’s sin.
Again, what time with him looks like will vary from couple to couple. His preferences and desires are part of it, but so are the things you want to do and share with him.
Now All The Rest
Having covered these critical areas, fill in the rest of your life. If you don’t have time for everything else you want to do, you’ve uncovered a huge problem. If you don’t have time for everything you think you should do, odds are you’re feeling compelled to do things you don’t really need to do.
Of course, there are times when life just slams us, causing our needs and our spouse’s needs get shoved to the side. This is okay as long as it’s short seasons, not year after year. Always being too busy for yourself and your husband is unhealthy, unwise, and a sure way to die sooner and less happy.
~ Paul – I’m XY, and my life is better when my wife is less busy.
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