Why Endless or Trivial Arguments Are Trouble
It seems some couples are forever arguing about things that just don’t matter.
Usually, these folks aren’t actually arguing about what it seems they’re arguing about. Endless trivial arguments are usually a proxy for something else. It might be something they’re afraid of discussing, or it could be something that has supposedly been settled. It can be a way of complaining about not being happy, or not feeling heard, or just a general sense of the marriage not being right. Sometimes it’s really just a cry for attention.
Minor arguments are like a fever – if they come and go it’s nothing to worry about. If it’s an ongoing issue it’s a symptom of a bigger problem. If you and your hubby seem to spend far too much time arguing about stuff that doesn’t matter, ask yourself why and dig for the truth.
~ Paul – I’m XY and I’ve gotten over arguing for the “fun” of it.