Applying the Golden Rule in Marriage
Last week I did a post over on The Generous Husband in which I suggested the Golden Rule doesn’t always work well in marriage. I had someone correct me, saying it works if you apply it right: treating others the way you would like to be treated is about being kind, generous, and so on. I can agree with that, but the fact remains we tend to do for and to others the things we would like them to do for and to us.
Your husband is a man, and he came from the factory with a male body and a male mind. Despite what some want us to believe, men and women have significant differences, and many of those are rooted in different (God inspired) biology. Some of what you’re dying for is of little or no importance to him, and some things he finds very important are irrelevant to you.
As Emerson Eggerichs says, different, not wrong. This means you shouldn’t expect him to want what you want and should be okay with him wanting things you don’t find exciting. The first step is learning to expect these differences.
~ Paul – I’m XY, and my wife is nothing like me.
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