Be The One to Open The Door
I’m convinced many divorces could have been avoided if one spouse had set aside their pride months or years earlier.
Small problems pile up because of pride. Little things become big things because of pride. Early on both spouses want to change, but pride keeps them from doing what needs to be done.
In my experience (and there’s data to back it up*), men have more pride than women and/or find it harder to get past their pride. This means you’re more likely to be the one who can set aside pride and open the door for healing and growth. I’m not saying this is right; it’s not right. But it is reality, and we can either deal with reality or let things get worse while feeling it’s not fair.
If it helps, this is not “for him” it’s for both of you. It’s for your marriage and your kids. Do it for your family and friends.
~ Paul – I’m XY, and my wife has been great at opening doors in our marriage.
* Study: Men tend to be more narcissistic than women | University at Buffalo