Ten Questions To Get Him to Show Himself

A while back over on TGH I posted Ten Questions For Oldlyweds and ended with a challenge to CMBA members to do their own 10 questions post. So this is me taking my own challenge.

Ten Questions To Get Him to Show Himself

These questions are intended to get your husband to open up a bit.

  1. What reward should you get if you answer these questions seriously? 
  2. What do you love or enjoy about me that I don’t know?
  3. Tell me something about having a penis women don’t know.
  4. Tell me about the best date we ever went on.
  5. What is one of your favourite memories from High School?
  6. Tell me something non-sexual you would really like me to start doing or stop doing.
  7. If you could change jobs and still make enough money, what would you like to do?
  8. What one question do you want me to answer?
  9. What is one of your worst memories from Junior High/Middle School?
  10. Tell me something sexual you would really like me to start doing or stop doing.

Bonus Question: Want to get naked?

~ Paul – I’m XY, and I don’t even want to think about Junior High! 

Other CMBA bloggers who responded to the challenge:

The Romantic Vineyard10 Questions for Oldyweds About Romance

Hot Holy & Humorous: 10 Questions to Ask about Your (Mature) Sex Life

The Forgiven Wife: 10 Questions (for a Husband Who Doesn’t Like Questions)

The Generous Wife: 10 Questions for AnyTime-Weds


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15 Comments on “Ten Questions To Get Him to Show Himself

  1. My hubby hates questions. Even the ones for husbands who hate questions. Maybe if I asked them one at a time once in a while instead of quizzing him all at once it wouldn’t be so bad.

    • Yeah, that could work; it’s a good idea. I imagine it could be a little overwhelming for some to have to answer that many questions all at one. Maybe it would also help him if instead of sitting down and talking about it face to face, you were to give him a written copy of your list of questions, and let him have time to give a written response to them in return, which you could then talk about later. Maybe not an ideal solution, but one has to make a start somewhere.

    • @libl – Probably help. You might also try giving him time to think about it. Ask it the morning, get the answer at dinner.

  2. Nice idea (though some of the questions I’d be at a loss to answer). One suggestion – some men may made more comfortable with an articulated ground rule that an answer to one question will not generate another, off-the-list question, like #7 suddenly giving rise to 7a and 7b.

    • @Andrew Budek-Schmeisser – Excellent suggestion. Some men have learned answering one question means being expected to answer 20 more. If this is the case, stopping it from the start is a wise plan.

  3. I love this post! Two things I say too often that make my husband leery immediately are “we need to talk” and “can I ask you a question?”
    I’m still at a loss as to how big, strong, brave, world- conquering men can be tripped up by a simple question. But it happens.
    Anyway, my husband will know right away this list was written by a guy just by the questions, and for whichever reason it will make him feel more comfortable.
    I’m kinda afraid of asking him #2 and #6.
    Yes, I can see how it would be better for my husband if I asked him one or two a day, as opposed to all 10 at once.
    And @Andrew, you have a valid point. Until I read your comment, more than likely his answer to #7 could lead to 7a, 7b, 7c, 7d… I’m glad you pointed that out. Perhaps if I’m aware of it and make a conscious effort not to do it, things will go more smoothly.

  4. I’ve said this before, but sometimes I just show my husband your posts and we have some fun discussions. My husband doesn’t always agree with you but it opens up a conversation.

  5. So I tried this. It went pretty well. We even discussed beforehand the not turning it into 7a, 7b, 7c – and yet I managed to still do that as early as question 2!
    I caught myself though.
    But honestly, sometimes what men see as “interrogation” – women see as deeper conversation, details, connection.
    His answer to number 2 surprised me, because he said “your hair.” Now – there’s not much about myself that I like, but I do have pretty awesome hair. It’s long, thick, healthy, and blonde (although I’ve never been big on the blonde because as I’m sure I’ve mentioned I’m pretty sure my husband prefers brunettes). ANYHOW, I’ve gotten a zillion compliments on my hair, but NEVER from my husband. Like, never. I didn’t think he’d ever noticed anything about my hair other than it’s the wrong color. In fact, it has made me sad at times to think that he didn’t even notice what I’d say is one of my better features.
    So needless to say, I was shocked when he said “your hair”. And I was like “my hair? Since when have you ever liked my hair? Why have you never said anything? Are you serious or are you just saying that because you think it’s what I want to hear?” And then I realized I was on to questions 2b, 2c, etc. – and although it was incredibly hard not to dig deeper – I stopped.

    So thanks for this. At least it got us talking!

    • I had to chuckle good-naturedly because my hair is the wrong color, too, and my breasts are too small, yet hubby says he loves my hair and my breasts.

      I think of it this way: my husband has the wrong voice. I preferred and wanted a man who could sing a beautiful tenor. I married a man who can’t carry a tune in a bucket, but I wouldn’t trade him for Nelson Eddy. I still swoon at a fabulous male singing voice, but I don’t compare, or feel dissatisfied. Nor do I feel I deserve differently or better. Nor do I wish for a tenor or for hubby to have a good singing voice. I chose hubby.

      There’s a country song called Thank God for Unanswered Prayers. It relates to this theme.

  6. I think you could have titled it:

    Ten Questions to get him to Know himself.

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