He Wants To Watch Me Do What??
My new WordPress dashboard view shows a summary of traffic which includes search terms that brought people to the site in the last 24 hours.
One morning last week the first search was “is it normal to want to watch wife masturbate” and the next was “how to masturbate for my husband“
I did some digging, and for the last 90 days, almost 10% of the search visitors were something along these lines. Most were trying to find out if it’s “normal” or “okay.”
Is It Normal?
Our survey on this issue a couple of years ago gave a resounding yes. Over 1,000 men have answered, and 45% have watched their wife masturbate to orgasm while another 19% have watched her do it short of orgasm. Even closer to unanimous, 97% of men would like to watch their wife take herself to orgasm, or watch her do so again. (And 77% choose “YES, YES, YES!!!!” over “Yes” or “Okay”.) Being more serious about one’s faith significantly decreased the likelihood a man had watched his wife masturbate, but only very slightly affected the desire to have it happen.
Why Would He Want to Watch Me?
A lot of men say this is the sexiest thing they can imagine their wife doing. Also mentioned is that it would help him learn about her body and her pleasure. Because this is such a private thing, most men say it feels very intimate for their wife to do this. Trust, intimacy, education, and incredible arousal; what’s not to love?
Is It Okay?
Why wouldn’t it be? Even if you think solo masturbation is wrong (we don’t, for the record) doing it with your spouse is a couple sex act.
How Would I Do It?
Start by realising he’s only looking one place, and he thinks that place is beautiful. If wearing a t-shirt makes it easier, he will be only the slightest bit disappointed.
If you find the whole thing difficult to approach ask him to get you started then take over. If you can’t bring yourself to finish ask him to do that for you, but realise he would really, really like to watch you bring yourself to climax.
When you’re done he will be crazy horny. Offer him a quickie or do something for him. If you really want to watch him masturbate ask, but don’t feel it’s required.
Another option is to lay at opposite ends of the bed and watch each other. If this sounds safer or easier suggest it instead.
A Woman’s Thoughts
If you want to read more on this, The Forgiven Wife did a great job in Showing the Touch of Love .
~ Paul – I’m XY, and sometimes I can’t think of anything safe to say here!