Are You Hiding Behind Righteous Indignation?
I’ve seen a lot of marriages hurt by a spouse (or both spouses) using righteous indignation as a way of not dealing with things.
It works like this – whatever the other did is just so horrible it justifies disconnecting or setting ridiculous goals for being forgiven.
Sometimes the indignation is an exaggeration, but often it is not. But regardless of how real or appropriate it may be, it should never prevent a couple from working to make things better. Problems only get worse when they are put on hold.
Yes, men do this too, and I will be discussing it over on The Generous Husband shortly. But what about you? Have you ever done this? Or, have you ever told a girlfriend she was justified when she did this?
~ Paul – I’m XY, and my wonderful wife is more about righteousness than indignation!
A Great Post: Please check out Sanctuary over on The Forgiven Wife. It’s a beautiful post about the blessings that come from doing the hard stuff in marriage.