Compliments Aren’t Worth An Argument
Up front – yes, the picture is over the top. But I know men who feel this is what they get when they compliment their wife. Or at least it happens some of the time and they’re not sure which compliments are safe and which aren’t.
If you want your man to say nice things about you, you MUST receive his compliments well. Not just the ones you agree with. You need to receive all his compliments well. And for the record, “Thank you, but I think you need to get your eyes checked,” is not receiving well.
I understand you don’t see yourself the way your husband sees you. This is probably particularly true with regards to how you look, but it happens in many other areas too. Given how bad most of us are at self-assessment, the odds are how he sees you is closer to accurate than how you see you. Even if it’s an honest difference of opinion, it’s still valid on his part. If you reject his compliments you’re saying he is wrong. More than that, you’re accusing him of lying to you.
No one wants to be attacked for being nice. No one wants to have their sanity or honesty questioned for being nice. When a wife does this her husband learns to avoid compliments because they can backfire on him.
~ Paul – I’m XY, and my wife hasn’t questioned my eyesight recently.
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