man·splain

manˈsplān/
verb
informal gerund or present participle:

mansplaining (of a man) explaining (something) to someone, typically a woman, in a manner regarded as condescending or patronizing.

Yeah, that happens and it probably happens far more often than I think. However, there’s another definition of mansplaining

Mansplain

A sexist slur created by women to invalidate someone’s opinion based on their gender.

And yes, that happens too. And it’s probably more common than most women think. Maybe it’s not what she means (and maybe it is) but it may come across that way regardless of what you mean.

Please understand that accusing your husband of mansplaining may hurt him and your relationship. It condescending and sounds to him like he’s being told he’s wrong because he’s a man or because you’re a woman. It’s the mirror image of real mansplaining and it’s just as wrong. Accuse your hubby of this often enough and he will just stop talking to you.

Another aspect of this is the valid and often significant differences between men and women. Some (not all, but some) so-called mansplaining comes down to this reality: if he shares something that is valid for him as man and you attack it, how do you think that makes him feel? (Probably much the same way you feel when he or some other man does this to you!)

Even if he is clearly guilty of mansplaining, I suggest you avoid the trigger word as it’s become too much of a hot button. You can deal with the action without using a word that only makes the situation worse.

~ Paul – I’m XY, and I hope I’ve splained this well.

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