Are You Sabotaging The Marriage You Want?
Imagine you said you wanted to lose weight, and then you went to the store and stocked up on all your favourite high-calorie foods. Your actions would be at odds with your stated goal. In fact, your actions would be sabotaging what you said you wanted.
I see a lot of this with the couples Lori and I work with. They say they want a strong, healthy, loving marriage, but then one or both of them do things that prevent them from having such a marriage. Or they refuse to do the things that are necessary to create the kind of marriage they say they want.
Some of this is selfishness and not wanting to do the hard work. But usually, there’s more to it than that. Most of the time I suspect they don’t think they deserve the marriage they say they want, or they’re afraid of trying and failing, or they don’t want to get their hopes up because they could get hurt.
If your words and actions don’t line up with your marriage goals, ask yourself why. Why are you sabotaging the marriage you want? What needs to change in your mind so you stop pushing away what you desire?
~ Paul – I’m XY, and I find losing weight far more difficult than having a good marriage!