Is He Saying Less Than You’re Hearing?
I was reading a two-year-old THG post and this jumped out at me:
I’ve spent a lot of time watching men and women communicate with their same sex friends, and I’ve seen how much easier it is to clearly communicate in these situations. Men miss some of what women are saying without actually saying it, and women tend to read into what men say things the man didn’t mean. We communicate differently, and it leads to all kinds of trouble.
I realise those are sweeping remarks, but I think they tend to be true. Most women use more words than most men. When a man talks to a woman I think she feels the lack and may try to extrapolate from his words more than he said or meant. I know this is a common occurrence because I hear from men who deal with it all the time. He says ABC and she later tells him how he said ABCLMNOP.
Take him at his word, and add nothing more than his word! If you think there is more, ask, and accept what he says as truth.
~ Paul – I’m XY, and yes, I know men who do this too.