Give Him a Hand (Job)

Over the last few months, I’ve had several women and one man request I write a post telling women how to give a handjob. 

This will be both longer and more explicit than what I usually do, so I’m going to post the first part and then give a link to the rest. The full article will contain a sketch of a penis, but no nudity.

Give Him a Hand (Job)

Handjobs get a bad rap. Many treat them like the red-headed stepchild of sex acts. I’ve heard a few men say something along the lines of “If I want a hand, I’ll use mine.” I think some look down on handjobs because when they were younger a handjob was what one got when they couldn’t get a girl to do anything more. Once he’s married and can get “real sex” the idea of a handjob may seem beneath him.

As for women, perhaps some recall giving a handjob because some guy made them feel guilty about his arousal and it was the least they felt they could get by with. Hardly a memory that makes her want to use her hand on her husband. I’ve also heard from more than a few women who won’t do it because they have no idea how to do it.

In reality, a handjob can be a highly pleasurable experience for a man, and it can be a wonderful expression of love for a woman. When a man tells me he’s not into handjobs I assume he’s never had a good handjob and can’t even imagine what a great one would be like. From the female perspective, a handjob seems like a great option if she’s not interested in sex but he is and she wants to provide something for him. It’s not physically strenuous, she’s not left with a mess, and her jaw won’t get sore. It’s also an act that’s flexible; join him in the shower, do it during a commercial break, or offer it as dessert after dinner!

Please don’t let what I said about good and great worry you. Giving a good handjob is easy, and with a bit of practice, you will learn how to turn him inside out with your hand. One of the great things about a handjob is it’s all about him. He gets to lie back and enjoys while you drive him to new levels of physical pleasure.

Before we dive in, let’s get a bit of biology down…

Read the full article on The XY Code (skip down to below the hand and banana image)

~ Paul – I’m XY, and my wife is an expert at this one!

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6 Comments on “Give Him a Hand (Job)

  1. I’ve been trying to get my wife to understand the importance of this, even that fact that its “normal”, but so far, after 25 years, nothing.

    She always says that it doesn’t feel natural, or says “Don’t you want me to do it because I want to do it, not because I have to?” Both of which are just mind-boggling to me. It should be natural. Even if it wasn’t, wouldn’t you want to do it for the husband you love? But then again, we are pretty much sexless, so that probably explains it.

    • Everyone is so different. Hubby falls into the category of why settle for a hand job when he can have intercourse. Even if I am heavily menstruating, he prefers to wait a few days for intercourse rather than me giving him a hand job. He refuses oral sex entirely.

      Funny how it is so unimportant to him, but to others it is agonizingly important. I get it. That’s how oral sex was for me. I wanted it so badly and he refuses it. It has been so long since I had oral sex that it isn’t painfully missed anymore. Although I must still miss it because I dreamed he gave it to me last night.

      • I’ve never even been on the receiving end. Given plenty, never offered back.

        I get the dreams thing. I once, foolishly, told her of a dream where we had amazing sex, and the things she did and I did – she laughed right at me and said “too bad you didn’t marry your dream girl.”

        I had to leave and hide in the basement as I wept – because I did marry my dream girl. She just doesn’t care.

  2. The most important thing – act like you’re having fun. There’s nothing worse than the bored/uninvolved handjob. If it’s just me taking care of business, I can at least bring enthusiasm to the party.

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