Fear Of The Female Unknown
A while back in the comments one of you said something about her husband being bold with men, so she doubted he was ever scared of her. (Paraphrasing)
The thing is, he understands men. Besides being one, he’s spent his life working and playing with men. He knows how they think and feel. He is able to read them well. He knows when pushing will get him what he wants and when it will backfire. No man is perfect at this, but most are good at it and leaders are very good at it.
Women, on the other hand, are the great unknown. She is the final frontier and he doesn’t have a starship! Aside from the fact he’s not a woman and has far less real-life experience with women than he has with men, women are a lot less homogeneous. I’m not saying all men are the same, but there are a few basic types with relatively few subtypes. For women, there are many types, each with seemingly endless subtypes. And subtypes of subtypes. Then there’s that whole funhouse ride called a menstrual cycle that means most women are not the same from one week to the next. (Or one day to the next, or one hour…)
The other part of this is women are naturally more intuitive and empathetic. Men tend to run more on learned patterns and signs and knowing how to deal with each. With the more limited range of male behaviour, this usually works well enough. With the wider range of female behaviour, it often ends badly.
None of this is meant as an attack on women. You’re what you are just as we men are what we are. If you understand the difference you have a better understanding of the challenges he faces in dealing with you. And that just might empower you to give him a hand or a hint.
~ Paul – I’m XY, and women confuse me!