Who’s in Your Bed?
You’re getting into bed to make love with your husband. You step over a pile of romance novels, chick flicks, and porn videos. You climb over your mother and the guy you lost your virginity to in college. Your father and your pastor are sitting at the foot of the bed. On the far side of your husband are his parents, his older sibling, and several girls and women you don’t know.
That’s hardly a good setting for a great night of sex, is it? Unfortunately, this, or something like it, is the reality many women face with sex. The actual people aren’t between the sheets, but their input and memories of them are such that they might as well be there in bed. What those people said and did is affecting what you think and feel about sex. It pushes you in a certain way and keeps you from doing certain things.
If your marriage bed is full of sexual ghosts that’s a huge problem.
Even if you and your hubby have shared your sexual pasts with each other that doesn’t mean you’ve put those things to rest. If what those people said and/or did still cause you fear, shame, pain, embarrassment, or excitement they’re still part of your sex life. The same is true for the people (and porn) from his past.
The only way you will be able to have great sex is to kick all those trespassers out of your minds and marriage bed. It won’t be easy, and it will take time. Some won’t want to go, and some will try to come back. But none of them belongs there and you need to keep throwing them out till they stay gone.
What ghosts have you and your man allowed to haunt your sex life? Have you had enough? Are you ready to act?
~ Paul – I’m XY, and my bed’s only big enough for my wife and me!
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