This Is How Guys Talk to Each Other
I was having an online chat with a female blogger friend of ours. I was explaining how men talk to each other. I gave this example:
Three guys are together. Guy one says to guy two “Dude, you’re being a dick.” Guy two looks at guy three, who nods his head. Guy two then realises he is behaving wrongly.
The funny thing about this is the woman I was sharing this with said she had heard her sons have that very conversation the night before!
The thing about calling your friend a dick is it’s not angry or ugly. It’s a friendly “knock it off” thing, not an insult.
Most husbands quickly figure out this is not an acceptable way to tell their wife she is behaving wrongly. But that doesn’t mean he has any idea how he should communicate that idea – or even if it’s okay to share the idea. This is (part of) why men say women are so confusing or so difficult to talk to. What has worked all their life doesn’t work with their wife.
How you help him in this depends on you. If you wanted to you could invite him to call you a dick when he thinks you are being one. I’d start by asking him to help you understand what that does and doesn’t mean. And, there’s probably a better word or set of words he could use, but as long as you both know what that word means, it’s all good.
~ Paul – I’m XY, and I’ve never called my wife a dick!