Tell Him “We’re Not Done Here”
This may be a bit out there for some, but I’m of the opinion that when you have sex with your husband you should have as many orgasms as you want.
If, on occasion, you don’t want one, he should respect that. If you want one, he should make sure you have one. If you want half a dozen and it won’t take multiple hours to do that, then you should have half a dozen.
What is never acceptable is for you to be left wanting. I know some women are married to men who just don’t care, and I’m sorry about that. However, some women have contributed to their own suffering by not speaking up. Even worse, some have said something like “It’s okay” because they don’t want to hurt his feelings or they think expecting him to do what it takes to get them to orgasm is asking too much of him.
Regardless of why, if you sometimes don’t orgasm when you would like to, you need to have a talk with your hubby. He needs to understand you find it frustrating, and that it puts you off wanting to have sex. Ask him how he would feel if sex ended without him having an orgasm. Ask him if he would feel loved if you climaxed and then didn’t care enough about him to keep going.
I realise this may not seem like it’s worth the effort, especially if you don’t think it will bring about any change. However, this is bigger than just you. As long as women treat their sexual pleasure as less important than men’s, some men will take that as an excuse to be sexually selfish.
If you find it difficult to orgasm with your hubby, I suggest you get a vibrator and teach him how to use it on you.
~ Paul – I’m XY, and I’m all about my wife’s happy ending!
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