What Do You Deserve? Fairness
Yesterday I laid the groundwork for deserving certain things from your husband. Today I want to talk about “fairness”.
What does fair look like? I think that varies from couple to couple. For example, if you both work outside the home, then it’s fair to expect hubby to help with cooking, cleaning, and laundry. If he works full time and you’re a stay at home mom it’s fair for more of the household jobs to fall to you.
I find that in many marriages the husband thinks he is being fair to his wife, while the wife feels differently. If you don’t feel he’s treating you fairly you need to make sure he knows that. He won’t make changes if he thinks it’s all good.
And what do you do if you tell him and he makes no changes? Let him know you still feel you aren’t being treated fairly, and help him understand being treated unfairly is hurting your love and desire for him.
BTW, I don’t mean to suggest how you divide the workload is the only place where fair comes up – it’s just an easy example.
~ Paul – I’m XY and I do most of the cooking while Lori does most of the laundry.